I haven’t done a wedding post in awhile. I did a million recap photo-explosion posts right after the wedding and then I got lazy. But I have more wedding wisdom that I want to share. Or at least my own version of “wisdom.” You may know that I didn’t even want to have a wedding (ironically one of my most popular posts…) But since I did end up having one, I wanted to make it as painless as possible. Here are my tips on how to be a non-crazy bride yourself. (Meaning you don’t feel crazy, other people don’t think you’re crazy and you’re not driving your friends and loved ones crazy.) Oh and I like to think I was a non-crazy bride buuuuut I guess I’d have to pool my family and friends (and husband) to be sure of that. So you can just take my word for it.
You’re ready to start wedding planning – yay! Decide when you want to get married. If you’re dead-set on a date or season, keep that in mind while you’re looking at venues. If you’re a little more flexible on time, that might open up your venue options. Once you have that date set, then you can figure out the rest of your timeline. I loosely adhered to the Martha Stewart Weddings calendar (on the website), but figure out what works for you. For me, each month I set goals for what I wanted to accomplish each month to keep myself within my timeframe.
Weddings cost money so you need to know how much you can spend. You can have a beautiful wedding by spending a ton or on a modest budget. It’s doable either way, but you just need to set priorities. If you have a limited budget, figure out where to allocate most of your funds. For us, it was important to have delicious food, good music and the best dress ever. Ok, maybe the last one was just my priority… Our venue was a restaurant so we had great food, my dress was reasonably priced and we lucked out with a free dj. So most of our budget went to food and alcohol, but we saved by not having a videographer, getting cheaper invitations and having my mom do the flowers. (See more breakdown in my save vs splurge wedding post.) It’s all about balance and sticking to your budget will keep you sane. Unless you’re rich – in that case, get whatever you want! Insert winky/kissy face emoji.
This is a no brainer but you need to stay organized. I didn’t go overboard with organizing my wedding planning (see above about the timeline). But I kept a spreadsheet to keep track of what I was spending. I also used a spreadsheet to collect addresses, keep track of what meals people wanted and for thank you cards. I love spreadsheets duh. I also used a notebook for notes of the millions of phone calls I made. I kept a folder with any paper documents too in case I needed to quickly find something.
Take no shit
That doesn’t mean you have free reign to be crazy (especially since this post is about being non-crazy). But know what things are important to you. If you say no kids or no plus-one’s or whatever, don’t let people try to change your mind. Or say they are bringing their 9 kids or whatever. If you have a rogue family member or groomsman/bridesmaid, tell them to shape up or get out of your way. You don’t have to be crazy about it, but you don’t need extra stress from random people.
Step away from the Pinterest
Pinterest is amaaaaazing for wedding inspiration. And if you have the time, patience and money to make a Pinterest-perfect wedding, do it. But for us most of us mere mortals, having that every-single-damn-detail-is-Pinterest-perfect wedding just isn’t feasible. Find your favorite inspiration and keep that in mind during your planning. Chances are your dress, church, centerpieces, etc won’t look exactly like your inspiration, but that’s ok – because it’s your day.
You want your wedding day to be perfect, but remember, it’s just one day. Things will go wrong, but the most important thing is that at the end of the day, you’ll be married to your love. And then the hard (and wonderful) stuff really starts – marriage!
Do you have any tips on keeping calm while wedding planning? Oh and here are a million past wedding photos if you want to check ‘em out!